the authentic and free expression of ourselves, our parents ingrained in us when we were younger...remembering the gentler way of teaching children...
- ridiculed for laughing too loudly
- playing too much
- teased for being needy
- made fun when scared
- pointed when we did something stupid
- yelled when we touched something that was theirs
- angrily repimanded when we were slow
- sent to out rooms (in my case - whipped and kneeling) for being spoiled rotten
- got on our backs for being too happy or too sad.
all this through out growing up, makes us fear we are truly unlovable/bad, it becomes an unconscious decision, creating the negative belief that "Who I am is not ok, I am bad."
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"you're unconsciously drawn to exactly those people, circumstances and behaviours that will reflect back to you your learned beliefs about yourself.
- when we are hurt, we often want to hurt others, in order to heal abit of the hurt inside us.
- hopelessness, no longer believe in creating a life of meaning and success, it strips us from self confidence, it leads us to self destruction and not to care of the consequences of our actions. it makes us not care about hurting others, it drives us to hurt others in attempt to help ourselves from drowning in our own sorrows, that momentary fix,
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