Friday, August 15, 2008

chronic self deception - abused women - psychology today

"women can be highly motivated to stay in relationships, and that often means overlooking noxious male behaviour, if it jeopardizes children, finances and status, self deception makes sense for a woman who needs male resources, even if the guy isnt optimally committed.

women display more self serving beliefs about their own behaviour in relationships. for some women, skepticism switches off during courtship after commitment has been made, and they may overestimate a man's investment in the relationship.

battered women, who remain convinced of an abusive partners devotion are arguably lying to themselves with an intensity that can appear delusional. - these women are acting on a runaway impulse to ignore objectionable male behaviour, an impulse that prevents them from leaving when they clearly they have the advantage. this behaviour is why women are quick to blame the "other woman", its economically and emotionally easier to think that another woman is a slut than your boyfriend/husband is a slimeball.

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